I stumbled across the article below a few weeks ago and found it to be quite interesting, considering that I’ve been blogging about my prostate cancer for over two and a half years and 8,000+ page reads now.
Blogging about cancer certainly isn’t for everyone, and there are concerns in this electronic age. For example, how much do you want your employer to know about what you’re going through? How do you protect your own privacy and the privacy of others in your blog? All things to consider.
I haven’t looked at some of the sites mentioned in any detail, but the one that offers up a calendar to coordinate visits, meals, snow shoveling, etc., is something that could come in quite handy.
During my recuperation, I had very generous friends and neighbors who would help me out, but there was no coordination, and I’d end up with three meals on one night, and go for four or five days without seeing someone. Would have been nice to have that calendar and the ability to coordinate better.
Other than that, things are pretty good… I can sleep 7-8 hours through the night without having to use the bathroom, and I think I’m stuck with some very minor stress incontinence (a drop or two when I cough, sneeze, or squat) from here on out.
I entered the world of illness blogs for the first time when I learned through Facebook that a friend from middle school passed away last Friday from acute myeloid leukemia. In the three months between his diagnosis and his death, the friend, whom I’ll call Tom, blogged beautifully and intimately on CaringBridge, a Web tool designed to help the seriously ill tell their stories and manage communication with friends and family.
Tom was 34. In his Web journal, he wrote about the trauma of bone marrow exams and chemotherapy and his anxiety about finding a bone marrow transplant donor. He supplemented his dispatches from the cancer ward with funny and raw Instagram photos, defiant tweets and YouTube videos and lyrics of the songs he was listening to.
Altogether, it was a window, painful but so rarely accessible, into the exquisite horror of a harrowing prognosis and the burden of the toll of illness on his friends and family. Tom was desperately worried about his wife, his young son and his daughter on the way. Yet his love for them rang out so clearly through his writings that the blog itself may one day be a treasured memento of the ways Tom held them close in his final days.
We share so many milestones now through social media. And that includes health: A 2010 survey by Pew Research found that 23 percent of the users of social networking sites have followed their friends’ personal health experiences on Facebook. So is it any surprise that the outer reaches of our social networks now also deliver us intimate stories of dying?
Palliative care experts, who specialize in improving the quality of life for people with a life-threatening illness, say all this blogging and sharing about illness is helping to open up the conversation about death that we so often avoid.
“As more people tell their story of dying with a terminal illness, we’re seeing a change in how we look at illness and mortality,” says Christian Sinclair, national hospice medical director at Gentiva Health Services, a large home health care company. “Illness and death are still so technically driven, or medicalized. So getting a safe space, like a blog or social media, to talk about it can be very empowering.”
Blogging empowers patients to talk about illness outside the typical frame of “the battle,” Sinclair says, and reading the stories helps family members, too. “They don’t have to dodge the hard questions, because the patient is able to tell their story openly and frankly,” says Sinclair, who also edits the blog Pallimed.
The most prestigious medical institutions, including Johns Hopkins and the University of Michigan, now encourage patients to blog their illness through sites like CaringBridge and CarePages. In the hospice community, a longtime volunteer and software engineer started What Matters Now to offer similar services.
Other institutions, like the Georgetown Lombardi Comprehensive Cancer Center in Washington, D.C., run writing workshops. Nancy Morgan, who directs the center’s arts and humanities program, says she never instructs people to write directly about cancer. “There is a potential for wounding,” she says, especially if the patients are depressed or otherwise feeling too vulnerable. “Most of the time they do [choose to write about the cancer], but it’s their choice.”
While many illness blogs are read only by friends and family, some patients go more public with their stories. Right here on NPR.org, Leroy Sievers and his wife, Laurie Singer Sievers, blogged their way through Leroy’s cancer, which took his life in 2008. And David Oliver, a retired professor of gerontology at the University of Missouri, and his wife, Debbie, a palliative care and hospice expert at the same university, have kept a video blog of David’s illness on YouTube and this site.
Still, some bloggers keep their blogs private from certain people close to them during their illness. A 2011 survey of 41 illness bloggers by researchers at Tufts University School of Medicine found that only 1 in 4 of the writers shared their blogs with their health providers.
Holding back from doctors and nurses like that could be a missed opportunity — and not just for the patient, according to Sinclair. “I think these blogs help physicians and nurses see their patients as [people],” he says. “But there are boundaries, and some health care professionals are looking for opportunities to get closer while others want to shield themselves.”
Sinclair says that when patients have shared their blogs with him, he’s enjoyed them. “I think it helps us check up on our own mortality. Am I doing the things I want to do? Am I making a difference? These are positive questions that can get lost in the shuffle of the day.”