Month 129 – Incontinence Run Amok

Okay, if you don’t want to read a frank discussion about incontinence, then CLICK HERE to go find some cute kitten and puppy videos. Otherwise, read on…

In short, I don’t know what in the hell is going on with my incontinence. For years, I’ve been able to get away without pads because I was routinely “dry.” A sneeze or a cough might cause a few drops to come out, but that was it.

But in the last month or so, things have changed considerably for the worse. I’m back to wearing Depend Shields for Men on a daily basis, but I’m discovering that those may not be enough protection.

A week or so ago, I was watching TV on the sofa in the family room and had to get up to go to the bathroom. It wasn’t anything urgent—just a normal call from nature. As I stood up, my bladder just emptied itself right there on the spot. Of course, the shield wasn’t equipped to handle that and my trousers were soaked.

Today at work near the end of the day (thankfully!), I had a tickle in my throat and started a mild coughing fit to get rid of it. With each cough, I could feel a squirt going into the pad and, before long, the pad was at capacity and I could feel my trousers begin to get wet. (I wear only black trousers for this reason—to help hide any “accidents.”) What shocked me, though, was there was an area of wetness that extended to my shirt about 10 cm/4 inches above my belt line! “How the f*ck did that happen?!?” I have no idea.

Needless to say, to have this much change in such a short period of time is more than disconcerting. In fact, you could say that I’m pissed off at getting pissed on. 🤬 (Yes, that’s dark prostate cancer humor.)

I did check online for the lab results for the UTI tests that we did last week, but I only see the bloodwork results and not the urinalysis results. I emailed the doctor to find out what’s going on and reported the last few incidents, too.

Edit after posting:

I’ve tried to determine what’s causing this, but have been coming up empty. I haven’t changed the volume of liquids that I drink on any given day. It doesn’t seem to be restricted to a certain time of day. My weight, although more than I would like it to be, has been pretty stable throughout the last year or two. It’s mystifying and makes me wonder if it’s related to my increasing PSA somehow.

There’s no update to share on the scheduling of the 68Ga-PSMA-11 PET scan. I figure I’d let the administrative wheels churn through the end of this week before asking the doctor on his progress with the referral.

Be well!

9 thoughts on “Month 129 – Incontinence Run Amok

  1. philblog100

    Sorry to hear the news, Dan. Even sorrier that I have no words of wisdom or comfort that can help. I hope they can help you deal with the issue. Take care. Cheers, Phil


  2. Hey mate, I am really sorry to hear this is happening to you. I have been wearing pads full time since my surgery in December 2017 and my continence levels have been ok with a couple of misadventures from not timing toilet trips but have never reached a point of be 100% confident to not wear one. I hope the doctors can find a solution for you. All the best. Paul


    1. Thanks, Charles. I really debated whether on not to share this because there certainly is a degree of embarrassment to it, but sharing the experience—the whole experience—is what has been important to me all along, embarrassing or not.


  3. Hey, Dan. I’m sorry to hear what you’re going through. Are you doing Kegel exercises? Can you get a consult with a physical therapist? If you were continent before you should be able to get continent again.


  4. Steve Loe

    I’m at a loss. Hope it improves for you. I have opposite going on. I get up 3-4 X’s a night and then stand in the dark trying to get the dribble going. 😳


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    1. Thanks, Steve. Yeah, I’m not sure which is the worse problem. I wouldn’t want to have to catheterize myself just to get some flow going. Today was a better day.


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